A few weeks ago, I was in the chair of a dental office, with one side of my mouth anesthetized.  Since I am not afraid of dental treatment (or dentists – laughs), I was very relaxed.  The ambient music favored the trance. At one point I began to realize what was happening in the other realm of reality, the extraphysical one. The spiritual guide of the professional who attended me said something about wanting to write with him, inspiring him, a book in his professional area. He also informed me that the protégé having been thinking about that, and asked me to reinforce this idea, telling him of the inspiration he would receive. In fact, by the end of the session, I shared my psychic impressions with the dental surgeon, who demonstrated, naturally, joy and gratitude.

Also present was the disincarnate grandfather of my sister-friend Maisa Marante (also an odontologist), who, together with me and another brother-friend, Delano Mothé, lead the Organization that I founded, with the help of the spiritual Teachers, the Quantum Leap Institute. Maisa usually accompanies me to dental treatments. João Caetano, her deceased grandfather, expressed to us (both me and her) words of affection – after a decade of communications through me, Grandpa João, as I give myself the liberty to call him, already sees me equally as a grandchild.

 After a few more minutes, appeared, supporting the efforts of the professional and his spiritual mentor, a disembodied young man, looking a little more than thirty years old, with his left hand flattened about ten centimeters from the point of my mouth that suffered the small surgical intervention. Brown hair shoulder length, white complexion, smoothly rounded features, without breaking the virile aspect. It was not only in appearance that I noticed him as a male: I felt him to be a very masculine personality, and I was surprised to note that he exuded an extremely affable energy of care and zeal, which I usually attribute to female figures.

I was, then, struck by a thought that seemed somewhat prejudiced to me, those that pass through our head and we do not verbalize, but which, for the Spirits of the Greater Plan, are all devastated, telepathically:

 - How curious! How can he be so masculine and kind at the same time?

 To my surprise and embarrassment – I had forgotten that he was a disembodied man (laughs) – the spiritual friend, who was concentrating on the procedure, turned to me with his expressive brown eyes and a broad, calm smile, affirming summarily:  “Benjamin, I’m disembodied!”

 And he completed the remainder of the sentence by the wireless of thought, something that could be translated more or less in these words:

- It is very easy for me, who does not suffer the hypnotic influences of the macho culture of the physical plane, nor the elements that foment aggression and rude behavior, as the high levels of testosterone produced by the male body of flesh, to keep my virility without losing, with that, the aspects of kindness peculiar to those who wish to serve with their heart.

 I immersed myself in reflection, around the significant implications of what the good spirit that presented himself as a relative of other reincarnations, having even been my biological son, had just told me.

 A deep, warm and light love, free from the passionate chains of matter, even from the genetic and neurophysiological-instinctual programs of emotional inclinations to kinship by blood! … He still feels like my son, because such bonds were established by the heart and not by the old reincarnate context.

 I was happy to know of a new affection, of other existences, of eternity, as we all have, whether we capture it or not through mediumistic perceptions. They accompany us, full of sincere concern and caring, favoring the good progress of our lives, so much as we do to deserve their beneficial interference, according to the measure of efforts and achievements that we deploy, in the field of contributions to the common good.

 What we cannot do is escape from interpersonal relations of the physical domain of existence, just because they emerge with an apparent greater degree of difficulty. It is very dangerous when the creature avoids intimate relationships with incarnates, to interweave them with intelligences deprived of material bodies, since it easily becomes a plaything of deceitful agents of the astral dimension. It can even turn into a macabre fantasy, when the person judges herself to be ostensible medium without being, becoming a puppet of the her own over-excited imagination, slipping into the wide and dantesque corridors of mental imbalance.

I feel blessed to have special friends, within the physical realm of existence, including my spouse, Wagner de Aguiar. With them, I live a wonderful, complex and long love story, by my effort and theirs! Friends from the Other Side assist all those who strive to fulfill our duties of service to others, whether in the professional, family, personal or any other sphere.

But they are present only to the extent that they do not compromise the learning indispensable to our maturation, on this physical plane in which we manifest ourselves. As it is obvious and sensible to conclude, if we were to live more with the disincarnated than with the incarnated, we would be, by Divine Will, disincarnated.

 People with greater psychic sensitivity and/or spiritual vocation are tempted to avoid normal human contacts. Some even think they are special enough to avoid sexual relationships, as if sex, as pure (in its nature) as feeding or breathing, could tarnish the soul or the fate of an individual. They often complain that they are not understood or suffer affective exploitation or delusions such as to justify their proud and arrogant behavior …

We all suffer disappointment with friends and lovers. Do we want better friendly and romantic relationships? Let us be best friends and spouses of those with whom we choose to deprive our intimate life, always persisting in the ideal of fraternity. For those who are decent, sincere and imbued with the genuine desire to love and make others happy, and not only to be loved and cared for – the psychological posture of the newborn baby – disappointments only push away from our paths those who are not meant to compose our constellation of happiness.

 Most often, they are psychotypes that choose the route of unhappiness, feeling themselves as victims and wronged, waiting for ideal people, without even being mature first, relying on systematic whimpering or cynical cooling of the heart, transferring responsibility to others, attributing to others or to external events the reason they are less happy or loving.

 Following this very practical and effective life philosophy of working toward loving better, instead of focusing on being the most loved, we find ourselves increasingly happier, with friends, brothers and sisters in ideal and with sexual partners more attuned to our way of being and feeling… And we remember those who have hurt us in the past, like a blurred memory that we bless, without hurt feelings, for having unwittingly made it possible for us to arrive, through the lessons learned in the interaction with them, to the position so much higher in which we are, with whom we find ourselves: of unprecedented well-being and satisfaction! …

 Benjamin Teixeira de Aguiar

(Text written on August 20, 2014, at the request and with the inspiration of the Spiritual Advisor Eugênia-Aspasia.)